Can you relate to this?
You work so hard, but your relationship or your financial situation is always going two steps forward and one step backward.
Or worse, one step forward and two steps backward.
This is very common.
So many people feel that life is one big struggle.
If this is you, I have good news.
I can help you.
All this without making you be more positive, try harder, be more disciplined, practice gratitude, or be more spiritual.
Because creating what you want is only 50% of the story.
The other 50% is uncreating what is quietly holding you back.
Here is what is actually happening underneath the surface.
Your conscious mind, the part of you that sets goals, makes plans, and says yes, is only one voice in the room.
The other voice, older, quieter, and powerful, lives in your subconscious mind.
And that voice is not interested in your goals.
It is only interested in one thing: keeping you safe.
So while your conscious mind is saying yes to love, yes to money, yes to being seen, yes to success, your subconscious mind could be resisting you all the way.
This feels like driving your car uphill with one foot on the accelerator and one on the brake.
You do not choose this program of keeping one foot on the brake.
It was written into you a long time ago, often before you had any words for what was happening.
And it does not care how many vision boards you make, how many affirmations you create, or how spiritual you become.
It will keep pulling you back to the same familiar ceiling, over and over, because familiar feels safe, even when familiar is painful.
This is the real reason so many good, hardworking, sincere people keep hitting the same invisible glass ceiling.
Not because the universe is against them. Because part of them is still applying the brakes.
What this looks like in real life
I want to show you how this can show up.
I have six children, and I have watched this play out in my own daughters in three completely different ways.
One is chronically late.
Not fashionably late but the painful kind; that means she misses the best part of the wedding, arrives after the toast, walks in when the important moment has already passed.
She hates it about herself, but it keeps happening because underneath it, there is an old pattern that says, if I am not fully present for the important moment, I cannot be blamed if it goes wrong, and I cannot be truly seen in it either.
Another one of my daughters is the opposite on the surface, but the same underneath.
She is the connector, the one who plans the family feast, who puts weeks of love and effort into bringing everyone together.
And then, on the day, right in the middle of the celebration she created, she withdraws.
She quietly steps to the side.
Sometimes she disappears altogether.
She built the stage, and then she could not stay on it.
And another daughter keeps getting overlooked. It has happened her whole life, in ways too consistent to be coincidence.
Forgotten in a shop as a small child.
Forgotten by a school principal reading out the names of the students who did well, and forgot her name even though she was dux.
Forgotten in moments where she deserved to be remembered.
Three daughters.
Three completely different patterns.
Late, withdrawing, overlooked.
On the surface, nothing in common.
Underneath, the very same wound: it is not safe for me to be fully seen.
Or perhaps, I can’t outshine my siblings.
I am so proud to say all three are so committed to their own inner work, and they understand something most people never learn.
Seeing the problem clearly is already half the work.
Once you can name the pattern, you are no longer at its mercy.
Catherine’s story
Catherine came to me exhausted.
On paper, she had done everything right.
She had built a business from nothing, worked longer hours than anyone around her.
She had read the books, done the courses, hired the coaches.
And yet, every single time her income was about to cross a certain threshold, something happened.
A client would pull out.
An unexpected expense would appear.
She would fall sick for two weeks and lose all her momentum.
She thought she had a money problem, but she didn’t.
She had an old, buried belief that said, if I have more than my family had, I will lose my place among them.
Money for Catherine was never just money.
It was connection, and belonging, and love, and her subconscious mind had decided long ago that it was safer to stay small than to risk losing all of that.
No amount of positive thinking was ever going to move that belief.
It needed to be seen, acknowledged, and met with compassion.
Here is the beauty of the work I do.
Once I could see Catherine’s pattern, I could clear it, right there in the session.
Not months of digging.
Not years of talking about it.
Seen, acknowledged, cleared.
She felt the shift in her body before she left the room and has been going strong since then.
Julia’s story
Julia’s problem was not that good things never came.
It was that the moment they arrived, she found a reason to walk away.
A relationship that was finally kind to her.
A job offer that was finally right for her.
A moment where people were finally about to see what she could do.
And right at the edge of it, she would pull back.
She called it self sabotage.
When I connected with her subconscious mind, it showed a time in her childhood where she received a doll for Christmas, but then she got punished for behaving badly afterwards.
She might have been jealous of her sister’s present, and her mum took the doll away, the very doll she had been asking for.
Receiving her dream present caused her to be singled out and humiliated.
Her body had learned that receiving is followed by danger, her nervous system taught itself, in a single afternoon, and then kept running that program.
So when good things came close, some part of her would step in early and shut the door before the danger could arrive.
Not because she did not want the good thing.
Because surviving with her dignity intact mattered more to her than the good thing.
I see this pattern most often, and most painfully, in women.
We are taught to create quietly and then step back from the credit.
We are taught that taking up space is somehow selfish, that being fully seen is somehow dangerous, that our worth is safest when it stays small and useful to everyone else.
Many of us carry this from our mothers, and our mothers carried it from theirs.
It is not just personal.
It runs through the family line.
Meeting it with compassion, not criticism
Here is the part that changes everything.
You cannot bully this part of you into changing.
You cannot shame your subconscious mind, ignore it, or push past it with sheer willpower.
That old, protective part of you only softens when it finally feels safe enough to be seen itself.
So instead of asking, “What is wrong with me?” ask, “What is this pattern trying to protect me from?”
You can also ask, “How old is this inner child?”
Turn your compassion dial up a notch or two, and simply say to that part of yourself, “I see you.”
Thank you for trying to keep me safe.
You do not have to work so hard anymore.
This is where real healing begins.
Not with more pushing but with acknowledgment to the parts of you that have kept you safe till now.
Uncreate, then recreate
The issues are in the tissues, and until we acknowledge what is stored there, it cannot move.
Once it is acknowledged and met with compassion, it can finally be released, and only then can something new take root in its place.
You do not need to strive harder.
You need to uncreate what is standing in the way, get that foot off the brake.
Ready to uncreate what is holding you back?
If you are the woman working harder than everyone around you and still hitting the same ceiling, or the woman who watches good things arrive and then finds herself walking away, I see you.
I know exactly why it keeps happening.
I can read the pattern underneath your pattern in minutes, not months, because I have lived it.
And here is the beauty of it.
Once I see it, I can clear it, often instantly, right there in the session.
I rebuilt my life after a serious accident, raised six children and built a business from nothing, all while completing my Doctorate in Natural Medicine and writing three Amazon bestselling books.
This is not guesswork, and it is not woo woo.
It is over twenty-five years of clinical experience combined with a lived understanding of exactly what you are carrying, and a method that gets to the root fast.
You do not need more affirmations.
You need someone who can see it and clear it.
That is what I do, every single session, whether you come to see me over Zoom or in person in my treatment room here at Purple House in Tasmania.
Source the Force, rather than forcing the Source.
With love, Grada
Grada Robertson, MNM
Master of Natural Medicine & Founder of The Miracle Method
Doctoral Candidate in Natural Medicine (Psychosomatic University / Holographic Manipulation Therapy with Drs. Gabe & Tiffany Roberts)
Grada is a three-time Amazon Bestselling Author of the trilogy: You Are the Miracle, The Underbelly, and Alchemy of Love.
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