10 ways to break free from fear, stress, and anxiety, starting today
Do these situations feel familiar to you?
- You have stayed in a job that drains you, because at least it feels safe.
- You know your relationship needs work, but you keep hoping things will somehow fix themselves.
- You put up with behaviour that doesn’t feel right, because rocking the boat feels worse.
- Your body is sending you signals, fatigue, a sore back, digestive issues, high blood pressure, and you are pushing through anyway.
If that is you, it is not a weakness.
It is not a character flaw.
It is your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do.
Keeping you safe.
But here is the thing.
Your nervous system’s set point for safety was shaped long before you were born.
As early as nine weeks in the womb, when you were the size of a jellybean.
If your mother carried fear, stress, or unresolved trauma while she was pregnant with you, those fight-or-flight chemicals were literally wired into your developing brain.
Science now confirms what energy healers have known for decades.
This pattern gets passed down through generations.
I know this not just as a healer.
I know it because I lived it.
My parents lived through WW2 as teenagers, and they experienced horrendous trauma.
My nervous system was set to high alert from conception.
For decades, that showed up in my body, my relationships, and my sense of self.
Feather, Brick, Truck.
I suffered from anxiety and depression at age 13.
And again in my early twenties, mid thirties, and I did the normal thing: I ignored it.
(Dutch people always have to be ‘normal’)
Then I was hit by a truck at age 43.
The impact was so enormous that I had a near death experience, and I felt what it is like to be completely free from fear, completely unburdened.
My nervous system got a full reset.
What followed was a health crisis so serious that surgeons inserted titanium plates into my hip and told me my sacrum would never regrow.
That I would always need a colostomy bag and catheters.
My sacrum did regrow.
My nerves recovered.
Today I am completely free.
During my recovery, I discovered that the fear running my life was never originally mine.
It had been handed down to me, generation after generation, through the energy field and the nervous system.
That discovery changed everything, and it became the foundation of The Miracle Method, the deep, fast and complete healing method that I teach to my students and use every day in my room.
Let me tell you about a client I will call Sarah.
Sarah came to me gripped by panic attacks that would strike out of nowhere, often in the middle of the night.
She had done years of talk therapy.
She could explain exactly where the fear came from.
She just could not make it stop.
The pattern would flare, she would fight it, brace against it, try to think her way out of it, and it would only dig in deeper.
In our first session together, I asked her to do something different.
Instead of fighting the fear, I asked her to feel it.
To place her hands on the exact spot in her body where it lived, and simply stay there with it, without a story attached.
I then applied the Miracle Method and within minutes, something she had been resisting for years began to soften.
She cried, not from fear, but from relief.
Weeks later, she told me the panic attacks had all but stopped, and the ones that did arise now passed through her in minutes instead of hours.
Nothing about her life circumstances had changed.
What changed was her nervous system, which had received a complete factory RESET.
This is the heart of everything we teach.
No positive thinking required.
No willpower.
No self-knowledge.
The Miracle Method simply updates the faulty old programs passed down from your ancestors and caregivers, and gives you the same upgrade I received during my near death experience.
But first, let me tell you what does not work.
I see these four approaches constantly, and while they are well intentioned, they keep people stuck.
- Positive thinking.
If your nervous system believes it is running from a bear, telling yourself life is wonderful does not calm it down.
It creates confusion and pushes you deeper into anxiety.
- Pushing the fear away.
What you resist, persists.
Suppressed fear does not disappear.
It goes underground, quietly draining your immune system, your energy and even your finances.
- Worrying as problem solving.
I used to do this myself.
I thought if I just thought about a problem long enough, it would eventually resolve.
It does not.
You are simply feeding the fear more energy.
- Forcing people to push through.
Whether it is telling a child to toughen up or telling yourself to just get over it, forcing an override of the nervous system does not heal trauma.
It fragments it, and those fragments show up in the next generation.
So here is what actually works and you can do this at home.
10 steps to move through fear in real time. These work beautifully for adults and children alike.
- When fear arises, pause and ask, “Am I actually in danger right now?” If the answer is no, move to step 2.
- Locate where you feel the fear in your body. Place both hands on that spot.
- Stay with the sensation. Don’t analyse it. Don’t fix it. Just be with it.
- When your mind tries to spin a story about it, gently bring your attention back to your body. The story can wait.
- Say to yourself, I love myself for feeling this. I love myself for feeling scared. This is not toxic positivity. It is radical self-compassion, and it works.
- Gently explore the sensation. Is it big or small? Does it have a colour, a texture, a sound? Does it move, or is it still? This takes the fear out of the abstract and into something your body can actually work with.
- Don’t rush. Let each question land. The healing happens in the slowing down.
- Let the fear peak, and then let it pass. It will, if you stop fighting it. Fighting keeps it locked in. Allowing it to move sets it free.
- As the fear softens, breathe unconditional love into that space. Give it a colour. Imagine it filling every corner of your body.
- Ground yourself. Feel the weight of your body in your seat. Feet flat on the floor. Six slow, deep breaths, focusing on the out-breath, the healing breath. Then get up and move.
Notice how you feel.
There is often a quiet spaciousness that wasn’t there before.
That spaciousness is your body’s natural healing state, and you just helped yourself get there.
The ripple goes further than you think.
When you do this work, you are not just healing yourself.
Unresolved fear and trauma carry themselves in the bodies and brains of multiple generations.
When you shift the pattern in yourself, you are quite literally changing what gets passed down to your children, their children, and the generations that follow.
That is not a small thing.
That is one of the most courageous and loving acts a human being can take.
Ready to go deeper with me by your side?
Then you are invited to my Sole to Soul three day hands on immersion where you will work directly with your body, your energy and your ancestral field, in ways that go far beyond what a single session can offer.
It is profound, practical and life changing.
The next intake is August 1 to 3, and spots are filling up.
Find out more and book your place by calling me on 03 64283007 or click here for more information.
The Miracle Method 7 Day Immersion is for those who are ready to go all the way.
Seven days on our beautiful Purple House Estate in Forth, where you will learn the full system, heal at the deepest level, and leave as someone who can hold this work for others.
Our next intake is 5 to 12 September 2026.
Not quite ready to book?
That is okay too.
Just hit reply and tell me which of those four strategies you’ve been relying on.
I read every reply, and sometimes that one honest answer is where the real healing begins.
Ready to take the next step?
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With so much love from Forth, Tasmania,
Grada and the Purple House Team
Grada
Grada Robertson, MNM
Master of Natural Medicine
Doctoral Candidate in Natural Medicine (Psychosomatic University / Holographic Manipulation Therapy with Drs. Gabe & Tiffany Roberts)
Grada is a three-time Amazon Bestselling Author of the trilogy: You Are the Miracle, The Underbelly, and Alchemy of Love.
Disclaimer:
Our content is for educational purposes only, based on our personal journey and research. It is not medical advice. We are not medical professionals. Always consult your doctor or healthcare provider for any medical diagnoses or treatment. The information we share is intended for learning and discussion and should not replace professional medical guidance. Any actions you take based on this content are solely your responsibility