Worry never feels good.
Preparing for the worst is a coping mechanism that most of us were taught as children.
I was raised by a mum who believed life is a tragedy waiting to happen.
It became a self-fulfilling prophecy for her.
It was a survival mechanism that she developed during WW2 as well as being badly deformed with a hunchback.
My dad was a man of faith.
His faith was bigger than his fear, and he lived heartily until he was 91.
Much as I want to be different from my mum, I am afraid I inherited her worry genes.
You can probably relate to this!
Most people have turned worry into a fine art, and it keeps biting them in the bum.
Fretting and worry is actively promoted by the media.
Everywhere we turn, we are bombarded with things to worry about.
Worry is almost seen as a virtue as if worrying will help us outsmart our adversary.
Einstein was different.
He believed that the Universe was our friend, but statistics show that only 10% of the world population believes that and they are the people who shine because they feel supported.
80% of the world population thinks the Universe, is indifferent to their plight, no help is to be expected from that corner.
And the other 10% believe that the Universe is out to get them.
It is going to cause them pain or punishment.
Which group do you belong in?
For me, it depends on the time of the day.
I am optimistic in the morning, neutral at midday, and get pessimistic towards the end of the day, so if I want to make an important decision, I have to make it in the morning.
How does worry keep us in a vicious circle?
We usually lose our natural optimism and innocence when trauma or a significant emotional event rocks our world.
Something so big, that we can’t deal with it.
We stuff it into our subconscious minds and try to forget about it.
Little do we know that this low-lying frequency of unease and worry makes us a vibrational match for future tragedy.
When the next crisis hits us, it only proves us right.
We think that if we had only been more vigilant, it wouldn’t have happened.
And so on.
Little do we realize that our own actions, thoughts, and feelings co-create these disasters.
Here is an important truth: while we think that worrying keeps us safe, we are not feeling safe while worrying.
We are feeling pain.
If you can only think of a worst-case scenario, you are already in that scenario, and your body is releasing all the stress and pain hormones that go along with it.
The mind doesn’t know the difference between what is really happening and what you are thinking about.
It is a lose-lose situation.
Here are some simple exercises that allow you to take care of your worry brain.
Be patient with yourself, because worry is such an ingrained habit, it’s not going to relinquish its grip on you overnight.
Especially not if you believe that worry is the only reason you and your loved ones are alive (like my mum did)
1. Observe your worrying thoughts and feelings with love and kindness.
Tell yourself: I love myself unconditionally.
Acknowledge that they are there and let the thoughts move through you, rather than sticking to you.
2. Do not resist your worrying thoughts and feelings.
Whatever you resist persists.
Bring your presence and attention back to the NOW moment.
Consciously ask yourself: ‘what is happening right now?”
Notice how you are breathing, notice the room you are sitting in, and keep bringing yourself back to the now, where everything is right.
Nothing is happening here and now.
You are safe.
3. Do a brain dump.
Write down all the things you worry about on paper.
Just let it all come pouring out without judgment.
Once you are finished, you can see that most of your worries are a dead end.
If there is a real problem you need to take care of, you can make a list of those and then tackle them one by one.
4. Ground yourself.
When you worry, it means that you are not inside your body, you are outside of your body.
Fear, trauma, and stress cause us to constantly go out of the body.
Grounding is one way to come back into the body, and in the video below I am doing a meditation to help you get grounded, centered, and aligned with your body.
When we are out of our bodies, we get tired very easily, get headaches, and are more nervous, stressed, disconnected, and overwhelmed, because we have no filters, we are absorbing everything around us.
Did you know that it takes 30 days for the energy to clear in a room where people have had an argument?
And, if you step into that room when you are tired and overwhelmed, because you are not grounded, you are absorbing all of this into your body.
It isn’t healthy.
Tune in to the grounding meditation, so you feel strengthened and regenerated.
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