Have you heard of the expression: When the grief train pulls into the station, it brings all the other cars with it?
Sometimes grief can be so overpowering that we have no words for it.
We say things like “I am afraid I am going to drown if I allow myself to go there.”
Other times, we are conscious of low-lying sadness humming away in the background.
We bury it in our work, our busyness, a bottle of wine, Netflix, gambling, and so on.
We live in a society that doesn’t honour grief, loss, heartbreak, or sadness, so many people don’t know what to do with it.
It is time we turn that around.
If you are anything like me you thrive in structure, order, and predictability.
The fact that we don’t have any of that right now, kicks up all sorts of old stuff in us.
We are getting our noses rubbed in sickness, people are dying and there are losses of livelihood.
Never in my lifetime have I seen so much collective heartbreak and heartache.
The thing with grief is that we can’t outrun it forever.
It is going to catch up with us as depression, anxiety, loss of creativity and connection, lowered immunity, inflammation, colds, pneumonia, IBS or digestive issues, and an addiction to smoking.
Grief and sadness are very real energies, and if we refuse to acknowledge them our body is going to have to do the work for us, creating issues in our lungs and large bowel, where grief and sadness are housed.
The great news is that when you stop wondering what is wrong with you, and you quit avoiding or denying your feelings, your body is going to be your best friend.
When you turn to your body, the intensity of your grief or sadness is never going to last longer than 10 minutes.
Can you last that long?
I am sure you can!
Grief is also the birthplace of joy.
The Grief train and the Joy train are the same train.
If you run away from grief, you miss out on joy.
And we are all on this ride together.
So tune in to the video below where I help you connect with your heart so you can receive healing.
Have a piece of paper and a pen ready!
Get quiet and ask yourself if what you are experiencing is grief.
Begin to move your pen.
It doesn’t have to make any sense.
You are simply opening the tap.
- Am I struggling with unprocessed grief?
- What do I feel right now? and now? and now?
There is no right or wrong answer, as you write, you begin to tap into something below the surface, where the real answers are found, and you will feel a shift in awareness from grief to relief, from a sense of relief to quiet and peace, to joy, all in your own time.
Your heart is so big that you can contain all of it, the grief, the beauty, the joy, the light, the sorrow, the loss, and the tears.
It is at the intersection of sadness and joy that our creativity is triggered.
Humanity transforms on the crossroads of ugliness, and beauty, loss, and gain, lack and plenty, but only if we are willing to welcome it in, spending time sitting at these junctures.
Much love as always,