There are some things that happen during a trauma that is not often talked about, but it’s important for you to know.
During a trauma, our mind tries to protect us by creating separation, and it has two choices.
1. The first one is separate from the event or the person that is harming us.
2. The second is separate from ourselves if it’s too difficult to separate from the person or event that is harming us; such as when we’re a child and we need to rely on a caregiver or when we’re an adult and we want to remain part of the group.
When we separate from ourselves it is called fracturing or splitting off.
It happens when we stop our emotion midway and this becomes what I call a frozen emotion inside our neurology.
We separate from the part of ourselves that holds that emotion this leaves us afraid, inauthentic and unhappy.
3. During the split seconds that all this is going on, our mind adopts a new core belief about ourselves in response to this trauma.
It does this purely out of protection.
The mind’s job is to protect us and keep us alive at all cost.
Your mind might say: Oh Sh*t, that was not OK, I better make sure it doesn’t happen again.
In an attempt to stop it from happening again, the mind will create a core belief about ‘who we are’ in response to the chaos of the traumatic experience.
Our minds hate chaos, so it will create a ‘new order’ by forming a protective strategy / a set of instructions for us to live by to avoid future trauma.
Do any of these sound familiar to you?
- I am not good enough
- I don’t deserve true love
- I deserve punishment
- I am not important enough
- I don’t matter
- I am not smart enough
- I am not attractive enough
- To stay safe, I will not let people in
- I will not let people see me hurting
- I will never be vulnerable
- I will show them how tough I am
- I will make sure everything in my life is perfect
- I will always put myself last
So, if you created a belief that I’m not important enough, the protective strategy might be that I’m going to put myself last all the time.
If you have a core belief of not deserving true love, the protective mechanism might be that you attract ‘losers’ who let you down repeatedly, or you will simply ruin a perfectly good relationship, because you don’t think you deserve such happiness/love.
If you don’t feel smart enough, your protective mechanism might be a ‘learnt helplessness ‘ that will stop you having a go at life.
The opposite protective mechanism in reaction to feeling ‘dumb’ might be that you study incessantly, are always up-leveling yourself, and don’t give yourself permission to rest and relax.
And, as an energetic healer, I can see how this plays out in your energy field, and how it blocks the flow of prosperity and abundance.
Tune into the video below, where I show you a simple practice to start ‘defrosting’ some of these emotions that are keeping these false core beliefs in place.
And most importantly, if you are stuck in a holding pattern of pain, struggle, trauma, unfulfilled dreams, I can 100% guarantee that there is unresolved trauma in your body.
If you don’t seek help, the same pattern will keep you hostage for years to come.
You deserve so much more than that!
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