Have you ever felt like your thoughts are battling against each other, leaving you drained, tense, and restless?
It’s your day off, the sun is shining and the birds are singing, and here you are, trying to relax in an easy chair outside, but your body/mind won’t let you.
You are unable to quiet the chaos within.
It’s a familiar struggle for most busy people.
I’ve lived it too, and I’ve learned how to heal it.
Today, I want to share insights that have helped not just me but countless others regain inner peace, integrate the splits in their personalities, and learn to truly rest.
It’s easy to believe that the constant chatter in our minds is just “thoughts.”
I practiced CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) for years, but it never gave me the Big Breakthrough I was looking for at the time.
It was too much on the surface and I needed help to get underneath my thinking patterns and resolve the trauma that was constantly recreating war like mental states.
I wanted real peace, not just truce where you put your weapons down, only to pick them up the next morning.
The truth is that when you are in highly stressed state, your thoughts aren’t just random—they’re the voices of wounded parts of yourself.
Imagine each wounded part of yourself as a separate entity within you.
These parts have their own thoughts, stories, and fears attached to their own memories.
Sometimes, they fight with each other, creating tension and stress.
One part may urge you to rest, while another insists you keep pushing.
One may criticize you for not doing enough, while another berates you for trying too hard.
It’s exhausting because it’s not just a mental tug-of-war; it’s your inner wounds manifesting as conflict.
When I first realized this saw how much of my stress came from invalidating the wounded parts of myself instead of listening to them with compassion.
The more I ignored them, the louder they became.
Sound familiar?
You might set time aside to relax, try deep breathing, or sit under the sky.
Yet, even in those moments, you can’t shake the tension.
The inner conflict persists: “Why can’t I just relax? What’s wrong with me?”
The truth is, rest isn’t something you force—it’s something you learn to enjoy as you heal.
Until we address the wounded parts of ourselves, they won’t let us rest.
Those parts believe their survival depends on keeping us alert, anxious, and on guard.
To them, rest feels dangerous.
I’ve been there.
I tried so hard to rest, but my mind would spiral into self-criticism.
I felt incapable, stuck in survival mode, and overwhelmed by the belief that I was failing.
But over time, I learned a profound truth: rest isn’t the problem.
The problem is the unhealed wounds driving the resistance to rest.
The journey to restful peace begins with understanding and healing the splits within.
Here’s what worked for me—and what I now teach others:
Recognize the Voices
Start by identifying the different “voices” or thoughts in your mind.
Ask yourself:
- Who is speaking right now?
- What does this part of me want or fear?
- How old does this part feel? (Often, they reflect childhood wounds.)
These thoughts aren’t “you.”
They’re parts of you, shaped by past experiences.
Recognizing this is the first step to healing.
Validate, Don’t Silence
It’s tempting to shut down critical or anxious thoughts, but that only deepens the wound.
Instead, try saying:
- “I hear you.”
- “I understand you’re scared/angry/hurt.”
- “I’m here for you.”
Validation is not agreement.
It’s an acknowledgment of the pain that part of you feels.
Reframe Rest as Safety
Wounded parts often resist rest because they associate it with danger.
To heal this, gently show them that rest is safe.
You might say:
- “It’s okay to relax now; we’re not in danger.”
- “You don’t have to fight anymore. I’ve got this.”
Over time, these parts will begin to trust you.
Cultivate Self-Love
As you heal, self-critical or hateful thoughts will naturally decrease.
Instead of berating yourself for not “doing enough,” celebrate small victories.
Each step toward self-love creates more inner harmony.
This journey isn’t about perfection.
It’s not about achieving some ideal state where you never feel tension or stress again.
Instead, it’s about progress—learning to listen to yourself, heal the splits within, and move toward a life of greater peace, joy and connection.
At the Purple House Wellness Centre, we specialize in helping people like you heal their wounded parts, integrate their inner splits, and find the peace they’ve been searching for.
Whether it’s through one-on-one coaching, (or future workshops and retreats) we provide tools and guidance to help you move from survival mode to a life of abundance and prosperity.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to take the next step.
If you’re ready to start your healing journey, call 03 64283007, reply to this email or visit our websites Grada Robertson or Purple House Wellness Centre.
Your first step toward inner peace could be just a click away.
With love and light,
