July 11


From dramas to finding your happy place !

By Grada Robertson

July 11, 2024

Do you sometimes find yourself waiting for a lucky break?

Like winning the lottery, or losing 20 pounds overnight, or being gifted an inheritance from a long lost relative?

We have all been guilty of doing that … waiting for somebody out there to wave a magic wand and suddenly we can be happy!

Today, I want to remind you that you already have what it takes to transform your life!

The seeds of happiness, health and prosperity are inside you, and its up to you to breathe life into them.

I will give you 3 steps to enable you to do this, so keep reading until the end.

First, I want to shed light on some super important concept that might be keeping you stuck: It is called the Drama Triangle.

You might have heard of the Rescue Triangle or the Hero Triangle … It’s all the same.

The reason why you need to know this, is because the energy inside the drama triangle is the opposite to the energy of prosperity.

When you are inside the drama triangle you are constantly stressed, overwhelmed and in survival mode, waiting for a lucky break … BUT, that lucky break will never come, until you remove yourself from it.

Once you are out of the drama triangle, you naturally begin to thrive.

You gain clarity, confidence, peace, calm and begin to feel healthier and gain wealth.

Most humans go from cradle to grave, living inside the drama triangle, because that’s all they know.

It’s how their parents operated and their ancestors before them.

Can you relate to that?

I can!

The first 45 years of my life were like that.

My parents were loving caring adults, but scarred by the WW2, like everyone else in our neighbourhood.

They worked hard and gave us a safe but strict childhood.

We went to church 4 times per week, and everything was predictable.

My father always had his own business, and it followed a boom and bust pattern, which gave us plenty of drama.

For instance, when I was eleven years old, his factory which was right next to our home, went up in smoke in the middle of the night.

But, that was just one very obvious dramatic event.

Underneath the surface of our orderly existence were plenty of undercurrents that kept me on the edge of my nervous system until I migrated to Tasmania at age 19.

I moved to peaceful Tasmania to ‘get away from it all’ and find myself.

Unbeknownst to me, I didn’t understand that patterns follow you everywhere….

Because the energy of DRAMA is the energy of UNRESOLVED TRAUMA.

Nobody is a drama queen by choice!

Pete and I set out to have a peaceful, calm and undramatic life, far away from it all, living in the back of beyond in the far North East of Tasmania.

But as you can read in my book: You are the Miracle! How being hit by a truck saved my life, there were many low points, including a dramatic event where my little daughter nearly died after running across the road and being struck down by a four wheel drive, and my youngest baby boy nearly dying from epiglottitis at nine months.

We had ‘truck moment after truck moment’ keeping us in a state of high alert most of the time, and none of it was intentional!

At age 38 we opened the Purple House Wellness centre.

I began to see that everyone had issues in their tissues, and that the fastest way to go from drama to ‘your happy place’ is to deal with your traumas, and to develop habits and routines that are empowering.

Since 2000 Pete and I have dedicated our lives to clearing trauma energy from our own bodies, as well as our kids, grandkids and our clients.

The good news is that no matter how old you are, you can leave that old drama triangle behind.

But, only if you are willing and committed to take 100% responsibility for your life and put yourself in the driver’s seat.

Once you do that, you can find the help you need and take quantum leaps forward.

Old ‘trauma and slavery patterns” fit humanity like a glove, and it takes grit to be different to everyone else.

These old, ingrained victim patterns block our ability to experience the happiness, health and wealth we deserve.

People in Drama triangle don’t believe that they have the power to create the life of their dreams.

They think, feel and say that other people, like their parents, the Doctor, the government, the weather, the country are responsible for their experiences. 

These people will never succeed, because to the extent that you blame others, is the extend of giving away your power and things will only change when you take ownership of all your ‘sh’t’.

Taking ownership of your own life has two aspects.

  • Number one, accepting that being happy, healthy and wealthy is up to you and that you have the ability and the power to change your life, no matter how long it takes.
  • Number two, taking responsibility to how you respond to situations and circumstances in your life. We can’t dictate the events of our life, but we are free to respond differently.

Unfortunately, most people put more energy into planning which car they’re going to buy then investing in their personal and spiritual development.

It takes time to release your traumas, to pay attention to what triggers you and self-reflect, to read books that inspire and elevate you, and to be disciplined to save money for a rainy day, and to change your friendship circle if they continue to be ‘victims’.

It takes time to be devoted to yourself and to raising your happiness, health and wealth setpoint.

The alternative isn’t pretty.

When you are stuck in old patterns of victim mode, waiting for an external power to save you, you are going to draw the same painful situations to yourself again and again, until you wake up and realise that IF IT’S TO BE, IT’S UP TO ME!

Victims believe that the past is more powerful than who we are in the present.

And that’s simply not true.

It creates fear, and FEAR means False Evidence Appearing Real.

It’s the belief that other people and what they did to us are responsible for who we are now for our emotional pain or our inability to thrive.  

The truth is that we already have the power to change everything.

And, once you know that, once you realize that you are responsible for your own inner space now, nobody else is.

Nobody can prevail against you.

How do you know you’re in the Drama Triangle?

Here are 3 dead give aways.

•          Complaining, which is feeling sorry for yourself, trying to get sympathy.

We are focusing on all the things that we don’t want … griping about how bad our life is or how bad our relationship is or how terrible our money situation is.

Complaining is like putting an order to the universe asking for more of what we don’t want!

It’s the energy of Poor Me!

This is the opposite energy of abundance.

•          Blaming, blaming others for our pain and problems or blaming the weather or the interest rates, or the government.

When we blame, we give our power away, and we need this precious energy to transform difficult situations and challenges.

Blaming or making excuses keeps us stuck.

The blame motto is: It’s not my fault!

This lack of accountability keeps us stuck in scarcity.

•          Feeling shame, when we turn blame towards ourselves or we feel guilty and ashamed of something we have done, or the things that have happened to us, it often feels so bad that we suppress the pain.

We run away or bury these uncomfortable feelings deep inside.

This uses up a lot of energy and blocks the flow of abundance and happiness.

And the shame motto is: It’s all my fault.

This type of energy can be a ‘cop out’ and keep you stuck inside your current circumstances.

Complaining, Blaming and Shaming are hallmarks of being in victim mode, which robs you of your experience of innate happiness.

Shifting out of the victim game and become victorious instead, is a sure way to expand your energy and become happier, healthier and wealthier.

There are only two types of energy in the universe: contraction and expansion.

Contraction equals unhappiness, scarcity and bad luck.

Expansion equals joy, fulfillment and peace.

There is nothing in between.

Which type of energy do you choose today?


When we are reacting or living in victim mode, we complain about our problems we blame others or our circumstances and we constantly feeling guilt and shame that puts us in contraction.

What liberates us from contraction and allows us to go into expansion is knowing that we volunteered for this experience.

Put a sticky note on the fridge in the kitchen with these words: “I volunteered for this life.  I want to show up victorious. If it’s to be, it’s up to me!”

So, here’s the recipe for peace and prosperity:

  • Focus more on the solution, less on the problem.
  • Focus on what you have already, not what’s missing.
  • Always look for the lessons and the gifts in each experience.
  • Make peace with the person in the mirror and commit to being your own best friend.
  • Practice gratitude. Foster thankfulness for everything and keep a gratitude journal. What you appreciate appreciates you, and this has a compounding effect.

Once you say if it’s to be it’s up to me, you connect with a source that’s higher, wiser, and more powerful than you.

Remember a time when you felt like life is just so intensely beautiful?

You were in awe of the experience, you felt humbled and thrilled at the same time?

  • Perhaps it’s when you first held your newborn baby …
  • Or, you watched an amazing sunset or sunrise early in the morning …
  • Perhaps it was a moment when you had a powerful personal breakthrough …
  • You had an epiphany that came out of the blue, and in that moment you knew that the Universe had your back …

Then you remember that the ‘stuff that makes up the universe’ is the stuff you are made off.

You are the stuff of miracles!

You don’t need to be in control of everything, because you can trust in the underlying benevolence and wisdom of that larger wholeness that is called the universe

Studies show that people who have a spiritual dimension in their lives (I’m not talking about religion) are happier than those who don’t have that.

They have happier marriages, are more effective parents, and feel better able to cope with whatever happens to them in life.

Even young people who consider themselves spiritual have higher grades and are less inclined to drink and do drugs.

Spirituality is good for your health as well.

It’s been found to improve blood pressure, it strengthens your immune system and reduces the rate of stroke cancer and heart disease.

The bottom line is when you feel connected to a higher power, you’re happier and healthier and can handle the challenges of life easier, without getting caught up in drama cycles.

I can help you become aware of the habits / thoughts / energies that are keeping you stuck and support you to live in the zone of miracles, living a life that gets better and more fulfilling every day.

To work with me one-on-one you can book in for a Diagnostic Session OR if you need a more in-depth coaching program – My Rapid Results 8 week breakthrough package will be what you need!

Many of my clients who have had regular monthly sessions for years continue to go from strength to strength.

They effortlessly grow their businesses, they thrive in their relationships, and they have been able to overcome pain, stress and dramas.

You deserve this too, so let me be your ‘wise guide’ and save you years, if not decades of hardships.

Its much easier to learn from inspiration than from dramatic events, and the choice is yours.

Much love,

Grada Robertson

About the author

Grada Robertson is the author of ‘You Are The Miracle! How Being Hit By A Truck Saved My Life’ which has inspired many women to step into their personal power.
Grada loves working with conscious, creative female entrepreneurs who want to make great money on their terms.
"My core purpose is to accelerate spiritual awareness and raise global consciousness."

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